Marriage is hard. I’m not talking about the kind of marriage that is just status quo, go with the flow, live our your days just next to each other. I am talking about rich, meaningful, engaged, romantic marriage. That is the marriage I strive for, yet often fail. I could blame it on a million things like the busyness of life or the chaos that 3 kids and 2 cattle dogs can bring. Its so easy to make excuses for being tired, withdrawn, and blah. I don’t operate at my best when I am tired. But I have been tired pretty much my whole life I am sure….hence the best napper award I received in my younger years. And trust me, a nap doesn’t always solve my problem now.
Rad and I had the INCREDIBLE opportunity to be together ALONE for 4 days. ALONE. No kids. No dogs. No interrupted conversations. No listening to anyone say they are hungry, or that their sibling won’t share, or that they are bored or hungry again. My mom graciously gave us time away from our home life to help us enrich our marriage. The last time she came to watch the kids was Hurricane Matthew almost 3 years ago..(remember Rad and I heading on a plane to TX and having to turn right back around to secure the house for the hurricane?). So in over 11 years of marriage, this was our first real extended getaway. THAT’S RIGHT!
We headed to a mountain house near Cashier’s that our old neighbors graciously offered us. It was tucked away in the woods with a rushing river just down below. If you look up the phrase “a serene place of rest” there would be a photo of this house. What an incredible place to renew, reconnect, and revive our marriage. Not going to say it happened immediately because it took time to not think about the kids, or wonder if we should turn around and go back. We weren’t used to quiet. And hours to just be together. We joked that we were feeling what empty nesters must feel and that we have to learn to be together alone more before it really happens one day. We had to get used to it just being us.
We hiked a few waterfalls, some way more strenuous that others. We love a good adventure and the conversations that happen along the way. We rested and got to be together non stop. And I took a nap! This whole time together was truly a gift!
THANK YOU MOM for holding down the chaos and creating memories in my kids hearts along the way. Thank for giving selflessly giving Rad and I this gift!